Dating Game: Different ways to find dates

Finding a date can be an exciting adventure, but when you’re just starting to work out what - or who - it is you want, and the dating scene is new to you, it can feel rather overwhelming. I should know, as I was single for about seven years before I met my now fiancé. Where do you even start when it comes to finding dates? 

My forever date

The good news is that today there are more ways than ever to find a great date, so it’s a question of doing some research and then picking the option (or options) that seem best to you. The world is your oyster! There are a lot of fishes in the sea! And all that jazz. With that in mind, here are just a few ideas to get you started. 

Online Dating 

My dream meet-cute was meeting the love of my life in a bookstore, but online dating has completely changed the way people are able to connect and meet. With so many dating apps and websites, you’re sure to find one that suits your needs perfectly. The key is to find the right platform, and whether you’re looking for a sugar daddy (no judging!) or someone to settle down and start a family with, there will be a site that’s perfect for you. 

Once you know which site you want to use, you’ll need to create a great profile, and this is often the hardest part. Some things to remember to include are any hobbies and interests you have, what you’re looking for in a date or partner, and, of course, photos. Try to showcase your personality so that the right people find you, and click to learn more. 

Fun fact: J and I met via Tinder. ♡

Social Events 

Some people prefer the ‘old-fashioned’ way of meeting people and going on dates, and that could include a variety of social events. They could be parties hosted by friends, they could be events in your community, or they might be events that have been specifically designed to get people to meet and go on dates (speed dating is a great example). 

The more parties you attend, clubs you join, and activities you get involved in, the more chance you’ll have of meeting someone, or more than one person, to go on dates with. The more time you spend at home alone, the less chance you’ll have of meeting people. It all makes sense and stands to reason, so make sure you go out as much as you can. Of course, don’t let socializing get in the way of your job or homework - you do need to have a good balance. 

Mutual Connections 

Another great way to meet new people is through mutual connections and acquaintances. You never know just who your friends are friends with, and it might be that one or more of those friends could be the ideal date. Don’t be afraid to ask your friendship group if they know of anyone who might be right for you - after all, your friends are going to know you well, so they’ll be able to judge who they think you might get on with from their other friendship groups. 

Because of this reason, and because you wouldn’t be meeting up with complete strangers, which I understand can be worrying for some, this can be the ideal option when you’re looking for a date. The only downside is that if you don’t get on and things don’t go so well, it could be awkward - but that’s something that you can deal with if you need to, and it shouldn’t cause a rift in your friendship.